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With Memorial Day behind us and the Fourth of July and Labor Day on the horizon, cookout season is officially in full swing. I can practically smell the sizzling burgers and hear the clinking of ice in cold drinks as friends and family gather to celebrate summer. There’s nothing quite like the joy of a backyard BBQ, where blaring music mixes with laughter, and the smell of grilled goodness fills the air. Whether it’s an impromptu get-together with neighbors or a well-planned party at a friend’s or relative’s house, these cookouts are a big part of summer fun.
But let’s be honest, showing up to a cookout is more than just bringing a dish to share. Proper etiquette can make all the difference in getting that coveted return invite to your friend of a friend’s cookout or even to your boss’s “bougie” beach house. I always make sure to greet the host with a big smile and a helping hand. Unless I am the host, which happens quite often at my house.
It’s always good to offer a helping hand, like offering to run the grill or keep an eye on the cooler. And, of course, remembering to say thank you as the night winds down is a must. With these little gestures, you’re not just another guest, you’re someone the host will want to invite back.
The Basics of Summer Cookouts
We should all know the basics, right? When it comes to summer cookouts, there are a few golden rules. For example, always RSVP, thank the host, offer to help where needed. If you’re the host, you want to make sure you cleverly stash away some extra food to ensure it lasts beyond the first wave of guests. You wouldn’t want the best dishes to disappear before the party truly gets going.
First things first, responding to an invite is a must. Whether it’s a text, email, or an old-school mailed invite, a prompt RSVP shows respect for the host. It helps them plan efficiently and ensures everyone is accounted for. Even if you’re unsure about attending, it’s better to respond with a polite decline than to leave the host in suspense. As someone who is always hosting something, I’m never offended when some declines or even says “maybe” to an event. At least they said something.
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Now, let’s talk about contributions. When you’re heading to a cookout, it’s a nice touch to bring something along. A dish, a thoughtful gift for the host, or even something simple like soda, napkins, paper plates, or plastic cutlery can make a big difference. Think about the host’s preferences, any dietary restrictions, or the theme of the gathering when deciding what to bring. If in doubt, don’t hesitate to ask the host for suggestions.
Upon arrival, make your way to the host to thank them for the invitation. A warm compliment on the setup or (hopefully) wonderful smell from the grill will make them feel appreciated and set a positive tone for the event.
Throughout the cookout, offer your assistance. Whether it’s setting the table, arranging seating, or helping with food prep, your involvement shows you’re genuinely invested in the event’s success.
And here’s a pro tip for you if you’re hosting: never put out all the food at once. If you lay out every pan of mac and cheese immediately, it’ll be gone with the first round of guests. Instead, put out one pan of each dish at a time, keeping the rest indoors and warm or refrigerated as needed. This way, guests will naturally pace themselves. When it’s time for round two and the inevitable scramble for to-go plates, you can swoop in with fresh, delicious reinforcements.
Check out some more summer cookout etiquette tips below.
Nick McIlwain is a member of the Preston & Steve Show on WMMR and has been a part of the station for over 20 years. Nick’s passions include attending concerts, cheering for Philly sports and anything that has to do with the Dave Matthews Band, Pearl Jam, The Rolling Stones, U2, Coldplay, and The Beatles. You can find Nick writing about his concert experiences.